Cancer is a horrible disease. To survive it is a blessing. If you have a loved one who has survived, part of you may be wondering how best to help them. Sometimes, you just don’t know what to say.
There are many ways to be a great friend to your loved one
Going to see them is a great idea; however, make sure to call before just dropping by
Not only is this more polite, but being sick can be very unpredictable. Everyone has bad days. Just don’t take it personally if they say no or if they have to cancel at the last minute.
One great way to help is to offer to assist with daily tasks
You could help them with a load of laundry or run to the grocery store. If they have children, babysitting or even just picking the kids up from school is a great way to help.
Food may not be the best thing to bring
With chemotherapy and other cancer medications, the person may be experiencing nausea and vomiting. Bringing a casserole may not be very useful. Ask your friend if they need food. Every illness is different, but nausea and vomiting are common side effects.
Also, if you would like to bring gifts or pay for things, think outside the box
Food may not be a good option. Flowers may not be appropriate for someone with a compromised immune system. You could get them a gift certificate for a cleaning service or come over there and help clean their house. Things like that are hard to do when you are sick. Also, you can bring them books and magazines to pass the time.
Keep the caregivers and other family members in mind as well
Taking care of a sick person can be draining. Offer to help run errands or take someone for a nice cup of coffee. Even just visiting them and listening to them is a big help.
Another important thing to do is to keep supporting your loved one after the initial diagnosis. They may get a huge outpouring of support when they are first diagnosed; however, friends tend to fall away after that. That is when the person needs the most help. They are fighting for their lives; keep fighting with them by loving them and supporting them. It can be nerve-wracking trying to think of what to say, but don’t worry about that. Offer to listen to them.